Leaving the theater last Thursday night after watching 90 minutes of Rachel Hollis’ wisdom in ‘Made for More‘, I had no words except: Wow.
Well the ‘wow’ phase may have faded quickly, as I headed home and walked my husband, DJ, through every single point that had me laughing, jotting down notes, and tearing up (twice). Less than $15 got me a solid dose of therapy, motivation, and inspiration as a woman and small business owner working to set my path forward in life.
I wish every single woman could watch the condensed version of her in-person retreat and learn how we’re all made for more. Since we couldn’t all squeeze in theaters to see it, I’m sharing four takeaways that stick with me one week later (and hopefully for weeks to come).
Keep your fire lit.
As a small business owner, my job involves a bit of everything. I bet yours does, too. Client development, networking, marketing, billing—the details can feel overwhelming. To-do lists are long, and there are never enough hours in each day.
What about your dream project? Do you have one? How much time and energy have you spent on it recently?
Listen to Rachel for 10 minutes, and your concerns and self-doubt will fade away. She proves that you don’t need fancy degrees and the right connections to find success. It just takes some grit and gumption, such as turning to self-publishing when no publishers grab the opportunity to print your first book.
One lesson I’m still learning as a small business owner is how to be comfortable with rejection. In my past jobs, I was a rule follower. I had specific responsibilities, was expected to reach goals and drive progress, and not much stood in my path. Now, I hear ‘no’ every week. Potential clients sometimes work with someone else and emails can go unanswered.
But there are also ‘yes’ moments that I couldn’t experience elsewhere, such as the feeling when a project leads to a glowing testimonial or a client signs on that makes work feel like play.
We all go through our own balance of highs and lows, but it’s the internal fire that keeps us going. How can you keep the flame going?
Your past may be messy, but it shapes who you are today.
In Girl, Wash Your Face and ‘Made for More’, Rachel Hollis is incredibly transparent about her past and the involved hardships. Like many of us, she has experienced circumstances that could have been crippling. And while there is certainly a time for processing and laying low, we can’t let those moments define us.
Rachel’s message focused on empowerment. Broken family dynamics, deaths, job losses, and hurtful exchanges are hard. Hard. But there is light at the end of the tunnel. The bad stuff leaves a mark, but we can leverage them to create more good in the world.
As Rachel says, “Maybe you’ve been given your mountain to show others that it can be moved.”
Seek out ways to stand up for others.
How often do you offer support to and advocacy for others?
This question has been on my mind since watching one of the exercises ‘Made for More’ walked through. Picture an auditorium of women from all walks of life. They’re handed a list of statements and given the task of marking off ones that represent them. Think, I’ve thought about suicide, and I’ve lost a child.
How incredibly vulnerable, right?
Next, I watched as the women folded up their paper and went through a series of passing: right. left, forward, behind, over and over again until no one knew where their list landed. As the ladies opened up the filled-out lists, they received instructions that they were going to “stand up for their sister” by standing up as statements (checked off on their sheet) were said out loud.
I can’t put into words how emotional it was to watch dozens of women stand up (for their peers) again and again, admitting how much we all have in common, and that we’re not alone. It’s a reminder that we all go through rough times, and you never know when someone else could use encouragement or an offer to listen.
Spend time with people who challenge you.
Have you ever caught yourself repeating your best friend’s go-to sayings after a girls weekend? Or taking on your significant other’s jokes or mannerisms? As many people, including Rachel, say, we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with.
As you think of whom you’ve spent time with, are you proud of the company you keep? Do they inspire, challenge, and inform you? Rachel’s take is that we should never be the smartest person in the room. How wonderful would it be if we could constantly learn and grow from others? To me, that’s the beauty about making fellow small business friends. Everyone has their own unique passion and field, and I’m fortunate to walk away from every coffee and event with new nuggets of wisdom.
I want to know, which of these four takeaways sticks with you the most? For me, it’s keeping my flame lit and allowing room to work on dream projects, not getting bogged down in the details.